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OnMilwaukee.com Milwaukee Buzz: Dont hang up that bike yet. Were going World Class

Ok.  So I don’t have a bike that is ready for the winter freeze and my husband works at home but I think this is really a great idea and free food is always good  too.

OnMilwaukee.com Milwaukee Buzz: Dont hang up that bike yet. We’re going World Class.

I Do Not Bake Bread

I was reading a review in the Outpost Exchange this morning about bread making.  It was a review of a new cookbook that is supposed to make bread making super easy.  Even the review made me tired and cranky. 

I DON”T BAKE BREAD!

I am actually ashamed of this fact.  I love the idea of rising dough.  I love the idea of kneading and baking with ancient recipes and whole grains and seeds.  But ideas, my friend, are one thing and reality is quite another. 

I have tried to do it.  I have tried all the recipes that make it sound so easy.  What I have discovered, as that now famous book says, is that I am just not that into it.  I have also discovered that I don’t like to prepare to eat bread more than 24 hours ahead of time. 

If you read my blog regularly, you will note that I was reading Michael Pollan’s book, Food Matters, a few months ago and that he had inspired me to try again.  I gave it a go.  I subjected my husband to passable loves of bread that he had to cut every morning to make his toast and then clean up the crumbs (or not) that fell all over the counter.  I got annoyed at keeping up with buying the ingredients, making the bread and cleaning up the mess it made.  I am also not convinced that this labor really helps the environment since none of the grains I was able to buy are local.

The point is I was trying to do something because I thought I should or because maybe I thought it was something to be  proud of.  My ego wanted to bake bread several times a week so I could feel like I had some control over my time and my food.  And then I had a moment of clarity where I said…

“Get over yourself!”

In my attempt to be “authentic” I was actually being pretty fake.  I wasn’t enjoying the project.  I was resenting it.  That is a tremendous waste of time and energy better spent on other things. 

Somethings just have to get done and some of them are less than glamorous. Somethings cannot be avoided and shortcuts are not always available but ask yourself…

Are there things in my life I do just because I think I should to be a good wife, husband, mother, co-worker, boss, or leader?  

Is that working for me? 

If so, then hooray for you.  If not, then you may want to have an honest discussion with yourself (and in my case with my bread) and decide how you really want to spend your time.  Decide where you can really make the most difference while still being happy and having fun.

When I retire to Tuscany to write and grow organic herbs, then I may revisit my relationship with bread baking.  For now I give up.  I’ll leave it to the professionals.

Now if I can just master cheesemaking…

If Music Be the Food of Love (or Quiet)

I have been noticing lately that my little one can be calmed by any kind of music.  I just press the musical toy next to her changing table and she’ll let me change her shirt without screaming and tears.  I prefer this a great deal.  It makes me think of pressing that “Easy Button” on the office supply commercials.  It works in the kitchen to buy me time to finish dinner and it works to help her fall asleep at nap time. 

Of course we’re talking about different kinds of music for each occasion.

Lest you be thinking that this only works on babies, I have seen it work wonders for adults as well.  Music can make or break any event.  I was at a networking meeting last night and everyone was very quiet.  It was the annual potluck for this group so someone brought some music to play.  As soon as the music started, people started to loosen up.  On the other hand, I was at a party this weekend where the music was very soft and mellow.  People seemed to have a hard time interacting, and these people knew each other. 

I have a friend who has done research on the effect music has on everything from classroom performance to Schizophrenia.  I will spare you the research summary other than to say that music can do great things.  We’ve even installed various music channels in the hospital throughout Aurora’s system so patients can enjoy their stay just a bit more.  At one of our metro hospitals they even pipe music into the stair wells.  That’s a nice touch.

I would encourage you to run some wacky experiments this week.  Play different music while you are working and see if you perform better to Bach or Metallica (Results may vary).  Maybe you can play different types of music during dinner and see if the family argues less (or more).  My personal favorite is to put on loud dance music when I have to clean the house.  It makes dirty toilets less terrible.  There is even music out there that is designed to encourage relaxing brain waves.

Press that easy button and make life a little sweeter.

Music washes away from the soul the dust of everyday life.  ~Berthold Auerbach

Count Your Blessings

When I was younger I spent a week every summer at church camp with a friend of mine.  We attended many church services and heard many sermons in those weeks but I remember one in particular.  The minister was discussing the habit most people have of using prayer strictly for asking for things.  He suggested that people set aside time to pray for the sole purpose of expressing gratitude. 

It turns out that there is something to the idea of counting your blessings.  A recent study from York University (Mongrain & Sergeant, 2009) found that having people write out 5 things a day that they were grateful for, reduced depression and increased well-being.  This exercise was especially helpful for people who tended to be negative thinkers. 

So it seems that being grateful and optimistic are strongly linked and the good news (for all you pessimists) is that it can be learned.  This short practice helps you to flex your happy muscles (well that sounds a bit naughty).  Anyway, this is a lovely exercise for anyone who is struggling with depression or would just like to feel more joy. 

Today’s Mood Lifting Prescription:

Take your vitamin D, exercise, and write out 5 things you are happy about in your life (no matter how small). What a simple way to improve your mood. 

Family Dinner

As fall progresses, we continue to harvest wonderful autumn vegetables and my thoughts have turned to holiday meals and gathering with family.

Growing up my family always ate dinner together.  We even took turns cooking for each other so my mom wouldn’t have to cook every night.  By 11 I had my own night to plan the evening meal.  That’s not to say that everything we ate together was particularly healthy and it usually wasn’t made from scratch or organic.   But we were nurtured by each other’s company and we knew the details of each other’s lives. 

There are many reasons to encourage families to eat dinner together.  Numerous studies point to the benefits for children.  Children who live in homes where the family eats dinner together the majority of the time are less likely to smoke, drink, do drugs, get depressed, develop eating disorders and consider suicide.  They are also more likely to do well in school, delay having sex, eat healthier foods and learn social graces.  It also seems that families who eat together regularly have less tension and more intimate conversation.

There are benefits for adults too.  This is a wonderful way to reconnect with your family and to know what challenges and joys your loved-ones are experiencing.   It is also a time to set aside stress and resentment from the day and to eat in a mindful way.   You are more likely to enjoy your meal, feel satisfied, and avoid later snacking. 

Even if you don’t have children or they have left home, and even if you live alone there is still value in making a ritual out of mealtime.  Turn off the TV.  Take your time and think of cooking as an opportunity for spiritual nourishment rather than just another chore. 

As the holidays approach, we set aside time for grand celebrations but every evening meal can be a small celebration of the many blessings that we experience throughout the day.  Every dinner provides time for you to nurture your family and yourself.  Give yourself the gift of the present moment and enjoy the harvest.

How I Survive Sports

Last night many Milwaukee sports fans were glued to the TV set for the Packers/Vikings game.  We were at a game-night party ourselves.  I have married into Packers fandom but the truth is I am more interested in the snacks or even the commercials than the games.  I was just not raised in a sport-loving family. 

I have come up with a few ways to entertain myself through the many baseball, football, basketball, golf, soccer, tennis, ping pong, and competitive basket weaving competitions that are on in my house.  I have decided to share them with my fellow fans of sports fans. 

1) Monday Night Football is a great time for head scratches.  My husband has discovered that a great way to keep me happy and quiet during a big game is to scratch my head until I fall asleep on the couch.  I LOVE MONDAY NIGHT FOOTBALL!

2) Baseball players do tremendously funny things when they are getting ready to bat.  They adjust the velcro on their gloves, fix their shirts, wiggle their nose, kick the bat, and chant spells.  I have tried to memorize all the Milwaukee Brewers’ team member’s batting superstitions.  I then develop little yoga routines to help these guys with their inevitable repetitive motion injuries. 

3) People who attend sporting events are very entertaining to watch when the game gets boring.  Just the outfits alone will last you an hour.

4) I had a supervisor once who taught me that if you ever want to really get to know sports fans, don’t worry so much about what team they support but why.  Some guys love the underdog, others always support the home team.  Some people can’t resist a fine upstanding coach and others love the bad boys.  As a psychologist, it is really interesting to ask people these questions.  Try asking someone in Wisconsin how they feel about Brett Favre.  It’s like a window to their soul.

5) There is nothing that will make golf or tennis entertaining so just get away from the TV as quick as you can and do something else.

6) Remember that these long sporting events are actually fun and entertainment for the people who watch them.  Be nice and try not to interrupt too much.  If you must talk, then ask questions about the players.

7) There is always some very important sporting event on at almost any hour of the day so you better create a darn good distraction if you live with a true sports fan and you have something else to do.

8)  If you are attending a sporting event, find out what colors the other team is wearing and avoid wearing it.  It makes people cranky.

These tips may not change your life but they have certainly helped me learn to enjoy sports.  After a while, you may even find yourself having fun.

The Power of Play

I heard a great interview on Speaking of Faith on NPR a few weeks ago.  Stuart Brown, MD is the founder and director of the National Institute for Play.  This organization is devoted to research and initiatives which promote play as a therapeutic and necessary part of life for both adults and children. 

Dr. Brown asserted that play can promote good health, better relationships, stronger character, mental alertness, and increased creativity.  AMEN!

We just don’t seem to make enough time for play.  We hurry around running errands and getting things accomplished but it is equally important to express ourselves and have fun for fun’s sake.  Dr. Brown emphasizes this point.  Play does not have to be for some greater purpose, although this seems to follow naturally.  Play isn’t really play unless it is pure enjoyment.  It can also include things like reading, games, and puzzles.

Wouldn’t it be cool if your doctor started to prescribe play for your health.  Imagine therapeutic golf and medicinal trashy novels.  Perhaps even a low dose of hiking in the woods.  That is the kind of treatment I would enjoy. 

In fact, I think I need a cycle of prescription strength gardening right now…

Book Reports: Food Matters/Animal, Vegetable, Miracle

There is a series of commercials on TV these days where one person asks another person a question and they just keep spouting out random information that is loosely related to the words the other person just said.  It’s a nice demonstration of the information overload that we experience in our modern world. 

As Uncle Ben said to Peter Parker (Spider Man for those of you who aren’t into that kind of thing) “With great power comes great responsibility.”

All this information has me feeling confused and overwhelmed.  You’ll be shocked to know that the focus of the confusion is food.  I believe it is safe to say that I am firmly planted in a food phase.  I have been pickling and canning tomatoes and freezing peppers and harvesting veggies and herbs from my very small garden.

I’ve also been reading.  I recently read Food Matters by Mark Bittman which encourages the reader to eat less meat and less processed foods.  The first half of the book explains why this is important (including both personal health and environmental concerns) and the second half provides recipes for putting his plan into action.  I really appreciate his full month of menus to help you organize his recipes.  I have been making his homemade granola and wheat bread every week for the last month.  Pretty tasty.  I also like that his recipes are very easy and flexible.  He really encouraged you to try new things and adapt to your own taste.

I am pretty sure I am not saving any money by making my own granola and bread.  First of all, I get a little crazy in the bulk aisle and add a lot of crazy things.  Also, the ingredients tend to come from varied cities so I don’t see how that will save the environment.  It is definitely more natural and probably healthier so that’s a step in the right direction. 

The main idea here is that by eating less meat and more simple foods, you will reduce the environmental impact of your meals while reducing your exposure to preservatives and additives. 

I also just finished Animal, Vegetable, Miracle by Barbara Kingsolver with Steven L Hopp and Camille Kingsolver.  I have been avoiding this book for a while because I had read that it was a bit preachy and I was afraid it would inspire me to move to a farm and raise all my own food.  Needless to say, I am still a city girl. 

Kingsolver writes about her family’s experience of committing to year of cultivating most of their own food while obtaining any additional items from local or fair trade sources.  The woman raised her own turkeys for Pete’s sake!  That is definitely not allowed in my neighborhood.  However, I really admire her passion and creativity.

She encourages readers to consider how they might change their buying habits to support more local farmers and producers.  Unlike Bittman, she does not discourage meat consumption but she does support eating less processed foods. 

One interesting thing I noticed was that neither of these authors are that impressed with organic labels.  They both comment on the way that some bigger producers are lobbying to relax the guidelines and controls on the organic label.  They also point out that many organic foods are still shipped from great distances. 

Folks, I have no idea what to tell you.  I feel like most trips to the grocery store are full of ethical dilemmas.  Once you open up to these issues, it is a very slippery slope.   I try to stay informed and to be mindful about what I feed my family and the impact my consumption has on the planet.  I can admit to getting pretty excited when I find products that are locally produced and organic. 

I think there is value in staying informed and putting thought into what you eat.  We so often sleep walk through life and this is a good way to slow down and consider what consequences may result from our actions.  It is a good practice in most areas of life. 

For now, I will continue making my granola, canning, reading labels, shopping at the farmers’ market and hoping that we can keep our planet healthy long enough for my grandchildren to worry about the same things.

Yoga Breathing

One of the best things about being related to a bunch of news junkies is that my family is always sending me great articles related to my areas of interest. My sister-in-law just sent me a great article about the benefits of breathing in yoga.

Anyone who has attended my workshops has received training in breathing for relaxation.  Yoga offers a wonderful venue for maximizing the power of breath work.  Pranayama (breath control) is an important part of serious yoga practice and can be used to increase calm or energy, bring the body into balance, slow heart rate, and enhance meditation. 

Most yoga classes in the U.S. neglect this practice but many of the most notable yogis in the world have set aside yoga postures in their own personal practice and focus almost exclusively on breathing and meditation.  This kind of intense work can be dangerous without the proper training and should be learned from a competent instructor. 

You can begin to practice in your usual yoga class by coordinating each movement to an inhale or exhale.  You will notice that your instructor often provides this guidance for you.  Remember to keep breathing throughout the practice (always through the nose).  This practice will open the body slowly and gently and help you go deeper into postures while increasing overall focus.

Late Post

Recently I checked in on a friend’s website to see if he had posted any new articles. He is a tremendously talented and funny writer and for years I (and many others) have been begging him to take his talent more public. I am excited to report that he has done so but this means he doesn’t really have time to update his site. On a whim I clicked on a link to his professional work. I was shocked to read an article which described how he had recently moved after his house was broken into.

I hadn’t heard about either incident.

I sent him an email (he prefers email to phone calls) to express my surprise and to ask for a forwarding address. He was annoyed by my surprise and counseled me to consult his Twitter page as a means of receiving regular updates on his life. In fact, he recently wrote an article about the incident. And here I am blogging about it (irony?)

I have fully accepted my reputation as a technophobic person. I carried around an ancient phone until my husband bought me a new one. I keep appointments in an enormous appointment book IN PENCIL! Both of my parents had iPods before me and gave me the one I own now. Mine is a very slow recovery.